Whether or not you have given
much thought to the manner of the
disposal of your earthly remains
and the methods by which you will
be memorialized, one thing is certain:
The time will come when decisions
must be made.
Baby boomers are now old enough
to begin contemplating their own
mortality, and millions of them are
expected to die within the next 30
years. This is the generation that
grew up with Earth Day, which religiously
recycles and composts, and
which has rewritten the rules for
most of life’s rituals. So it stands to
reason that in death baby boomers
want something more meaningful
than a prepackaged funeral. Looking
for something different, many
will opt for a more natural and
ecologically correct ending. Nate
Fisher, a lead character in the HBO
series Six Feet Under did so last season,
opting for a green burial in a
wooded nature preserve.
The U.S. funeral business is a $15 billion industry annually. A
typical funeral now costs about $7,500 and can easily escalate to
$15,000 or more for a burial plot, a headstone, embalming, and a
plush coffin with all the trimmings. Embalming, a mostly American
custom considered by critics to be toxic and artificial, forestalls
putrefaction for only a week.
(TOP) LEFT: A view of the edge of Spruce Knoll, Mount Auburn’s woodland cremation garden. RIGHT: Memorial “Ledger Stones” placed around the perimeter of a circle are etched with the names of up to 24 departed souls whose cremated remains are commingled in the space; Ledger Stones are carved from Rockport boulders.
Remembrance Room entrance. All Forever Fernwood clients get a minimum of 15 favorite pictures and music, archived online, and viewable in the Remembrance Room. Visitors can use computers to view the entire forever archive.
Cremation, a far less costly option, has become a serious challenge
to routine burial. Cremations have risen dramatically in
recent years and now represent 30 percent of all funerals nationwide,
fueled in part by economics but also by environmental concerns
and the rejection of traditional religious funeral rites.
Creative disposal of one’s “cremains” (as cremated remains are
popularly but irreverently known) include the recent spectacular
funeral of gonzo journalist Hunter S. Thompson. His ashes were
blown into the sky from a cannon at his Aspen, Colo. ranch, topping
off a star-studded celebration. “He loved explosions,” Thompson’s
widow Anita said. ( Johnny Depp, who played Thompson in
the . lm of his book Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, paid for the cannon
and the event, which reportedly cost $2 million.)
Similarly, on Dec. 6, the cremains of James Doohan, who
played Scotty on Star Trek, were launched into space according
to his last wishes. The remains of more than 120 others were
also aboard the flight, including those of Mareta West, the scientist
who determined the site for the first spacecraft landing on the
moon. Star Trek creator Gene Roddenberry also had his remains
shot into space in 1991.
The Remembrance Room at Forever Fernwood looks out toward a new natural landscape of native plants, wildflowers, and a waterfall..
Shooting one’s ashes into space is only one option, of course. A
scattering of one’s ashes in a meaningful spot has always been popular,
but how are loved ones to visit you after the scattering? Enter
the “green” cemetery. In England, there are about 140 woodland
cemeteries, and the concept is rapidly catching on in the States.
Mount Auburn cemetery, the first garden cemetery in the U.S.,
was originally affiliated with the Massachusetts Horticultural
Society. Modeled after Père Lachaise Cemetery in Paris, its mission
is to preserve the historical landscape. VP of Interpretive
Programs Janet Heywood says that the demand for space exceeds
the supply. “There is no shortage of space below ground, just above
ground,” she says. “People love to be in landscape spaces, to feel as
if they are part of the garden. They want beauty, tranquility, to be
in a spiritual place.”
But they still want memorialization, so Mount Auburn provides
a number of space-saving options: While traditional plots
are still available, they may be used to accommodate a combination
of caskets and cremated remains, and in an area called Spruce
Knoll, cremains are poured into the ground and commingled with
others. Memorial ledger stones, set in ground cover, can accommodate
24 names and are placed in groups around the Knoll. “People
like the idea of reusing and sharing space,” says Heywood.
This glass headstone from Lundgren Monuments in Seattle was a custom commission for a family who lost their 15-year-old daughter. It measures 22 x 56 x 5-1/2 inches and weighs approximately 475
lbs. An optically clear base glass contains a concave teardrop on the back side; a poem is etched into the upper portion of the glass, with the name, designed from the departed's personal signature, etched in the lower portion. The silica bronze base holds an embossed panel containing personal information, and a ceramic portrait will be mounted in the framed space at the left.
An early proponent of natural burial, Dr. Billy Campbell
opened the 350-acre Ramsey Creek Preserve, a natural burial
ground in Westminster, S.C., in 1998. Burials take place without
embalming, in biodegradable coffins or cremation urns. Campbell
says, “It’s restoring the connection between people and land.”
His nonprofit Center for Ethical Burial is developing aesthetic and
environmental standards for green cemeteries.
But the greatest marketing opportunity for eco-burial may
be in Marin County, Calif., where cremation is the choice for an
astonishing 80 percent of the departed. Hollywood Forever Cemetery
on Santa Monica Boulevard may seem an unlikely beacon
of the future of the hereafter, but its young owner, Tyler Cassity,
turned the neglected cemetery for old silver-screen idols into a
tourist mecca. Video tributes to the deceased stars are viewable at
kiosks and on the internet, and Cassity’s annual Rudolph Valentino
film festival at the cemetery is attended by thousands.
Cassity’s vision for a virtual green cemetery has been realized
at Forever Fernwood, a forested site bordering miles of the Golden
Gate National Recreation Area. The landscape is natural: Wild-
flowers, shrubs, rocky outcroppings, and trees serve as markers.
There is no embalming and no vault. Those opting for burial
at Fernwood can choose biodegradable coffins made of wicker or
bamboo, and shrouds in a hemp-silk blend. Soon to come: $5,000
“eco-pods,” made from recycled newspapers and nontoxic glue,
imported from England, and akin to a seed pod for humans.
In a landscape with no headstones, visitors to Forever Fernwood
can locate the remains of loved ones using a handheld device
triggered by GPS (Global Positioning Satellite). Cassity has plans
for a portable computer that will allow strollers to view digital
biographies as they contemplate the natural environment.
Gary McRae, Director of Marketing at Forever Fernwood, recording the GPS coordinates of a grave.
Not everyone wants such a discreet grave. If headstones are
your thing, you now have options beyond traditional granite: Consider
the newly available kiln-formed glass headstones to brighten
up your final resting place. Lundgren Monuments in Seattle makes
custom glass monuments that “glow like a beacon in a field of
cold, lifeless stone,” says the company’s owner, Greg Lundgren.
Designed to last thousands of years with little or no maintenance,
glass headstones “bring new life to the graveyard.”
So, while we cannot choose how or when we exit this mortal
coil, it’s a comfort to know we may at least spend eternity in a style
of our own choosing. Whether or not we believe in an afterlife, we
all wish to be remembered, and our choice of memorialization is
our last chance to express our personal taste. Either way, as Gene
Rodenberry might have quipped: “Death ... is the final ending.”